Sandpaper people

My life is like that of a confused teenager in middle school who is struggling to fit in or even to just be invisible. Either one is better than being picked on by the mean girls in school. Why is a 21 year old still dealing with this kind of behavior coming from other "adults" ?

As I listen to others' stories and what not, I realize that we never grow up. None of us do. We just take on more responsibility and make "grown up" decisions. Most of us, though we are in our 20s or even 60s are still dealing with the same destructive behavior.

I don't mean to sound like I am complaining, but it doesn't seem fair. Yeah I got the news flash that life isn't fair. You don't have to remind me. I just can't seem to understand these mean people. They are literally un kind. I have encountered many in my life time, as you have. I am here to tell you that it doesn't get any better with age. If anything, it gets worse. Because instead of bickering and badgering about juvenile things, they are poking at you for very adult things.

I like to call these people Sandpaper People. They always have a problem with someone. Even you. What did you do wrong? Do you even know what you did wrong? I know I don't know. I have no idea what I have done to make these people so angry at me. -They are mad at everyone. Even the people they are friends with, they will turn on them eventually.

These abrasive personalities come from their own insecurities. Sandpaper people will only continue to be abrasive. Get this:

What does sandpaper do to wood?
makes it smooth.
shapes it.
removes rough spots.
Don't you agree that is what sandpaper people will do to you?

I know it sucks, and it's hard to live with this kind of person. I am encouraging you to keep going and give these people an opportunity to shape you. I am not saying you have to like them or give them unwarranted respect. I just think that you can have piece of mind knowing that you are a better person now, and you will be an even better person after overcoming these people.

I hope that if you are reading this, and there are bullies in your life, that you get comfort from these words.